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Previously on Kinky Curiosity...

Bimbofication & Dollification: Two Types of Transformation Kinks

Transformational kinks revolve around change, whether it’s physical, mental, or both. they can be fun, sexy, and even full-time lifestyles.

Medieval Devices in BDSM

There’s something about medieval-style BDSM gear that just grabs your attention. Maybe it’s the history that draws people in, but let’s be honest, the sheer look of these devices set an ominous tone.

Behavior Modification

Behavior modification is a big part of power exchange. At its core, it’s about creating habits that are desirable, meaningful, and sustainable.

CNC

At its core, CNC is about creating a consensual space to explore fantasies that may look like non-consent, but are fully agreed upon and respected.

Mantras

Mantras hold a special place in D/s dynamics. They’re simple, yet they have the power to focus the mind, strengthen connection, and set purposeful intentions.

BDSM and the Law

Talking about BDSM when it comes to the law can feel tricky, but it’s an important conversation to have. Consensual kink is a meaningful part of many people’s lives...

Total Power Exchange

Total Power Exchange (TPE) is one of the most immersive dynamics in BDSM, where one partner willingly hands over control to the other, creating a deep bond based on trust and commitment.

Responsibilities in D/s

Responsibilities in D/s dynamics are something that can often be misunderstood, but understanding who does what and why is crucial for a strong, healthy connection.

Online BDSM

Online BDSM has opened up a whole new world for people who want to explore kink in a more private setting. But just like in-person play, there’s a lot to consider to make sure it’s fun, safe, and fulfilling for everyone involved.

Fantasy vs Reality

Fantasy and reality often blur together when we think about BDSM, but they play very different roles. In our imaginations, everything always works out perfectly.

Mindset

Mindset is a big part of D/s, but it’s rarely talked about. It’s what helps you really connect to your role.

Expectations

In power exchange relationships, setting clear expectations is crucial for making things work. Just as you expect support and respect from your family and friends...

Consent

Kinksters exist in a consent-driven reality.  It's how we distinguish play time from abuse.

Fire Play: Part 3 of the Temperature Play Series

Fire is mesmerizing, hypnotic, and fascinating.  It makes sense why people are drawn to it.  But let's not forget..

Wax Play: Part 2 in the Temperature Play Series

Wax play is a form of temperature and sensory play, where one uses hot melted wax to distribute onto their partner in various areas of the body.

Ice Play: Part 1 in the Temperature Play Series

Ice play is using objects that are cool or cold in physical temperature during play.  Items that can be used for ice play include...

All About Rope

In BDSM, rope is a very popular activity.   It is used to bind a person in different positions for different purposes.  Participants of rope play may want to...

Impact Play

One of the first ways many people are introduced to BDSM is through impact play. But it's not as simple as "bend over and take these hits".

Domination and Submission

Let's discuss something that might seem like a given.  But it incorporates the whole foundation of power exchange...

BDSM Contracts

Contracts serve as a record of commitment between people involved in an agreement.  Contracts are meant to safeguard all parties involved by laying out responsibilities and expectations.

Lifestyle BDSM

One of the things I've come across repeatedly in the dating pool when I explain to someone that I am into BDSM, is they think I mean that I like...

BDSM Protocol

BDSM protocol is all about behaviors. In BDSM, it can be used in so many different ways that it can be difficult to understand or grasp, but protocol can be very valuable and rewarding.

Rules and Tasks

I'm a stickler for structure.  I feel submissives can be their best when they have responsibilities and expectations to follow.

Wants and Needs

Have you ever been in a relationship where it didn't satisfy you, or you weren't happy? 

BDSM: Hurt or Harm

While not required in BDSM, pain is very common.  There are two main types of pain, physical and emotional. 

Discipline, Punishment, and Funishment

Three terms that get used incorrectly or interchangeably in BDSM are Discipline, Punishment, and Funishment.  These words are not the same, and they have distinct differences.

Scene Safety

There are two main categories of scenes in BDSM.  Public scenes and private scenes.  Which one you do dictates how you need to approach it.

Mentors

Do you have that person in your everyday life that you go to for advice?  When you have questions, you know they'll know the answer, or at least be able to lead you in the right direction?

Protectors

How do you navigate BDSM when you're new?  How do you spot red flags when you don't know what to look for?

Under Consideration

When trying to find a potential partner, how do you make sure they are a suitable partner for you?  Agreeing to power exchange terms...

Collars

One of the most recognized visual symbols of BDSM is a collar.  But Why?  What is the meaning behind them, and why are they so common in the lifestyle?

Communication

Hands down, communication is the most important aspect of BDSM.  It is the foundation of everything and stretches into all facets of BDSM and Kink.

Vetting

Finding someone in BDSM or Kink who shows interests as a partner or play partner is exciting!  But how do you know they are a good, viable option?

Negotiations

Negotiations are so important in BDSM when it comes to setting up a play scene or a power exchange relationship with your partner. 

Frenzy

Have you ever seen that person in the lifestyle who is so enthusiastic about BDSM that they bounce from play scene to play scene, or partner to partner with no care in the world? Did you ever envy them? Don't.

Drop

Not everyone experiences drop. Drop is real.  It's normal.  If you are experiencing drop, aftercare can and does help.

Aftercare

Everyone's aftercare needs are different.  Even if you are new to the scene, you're not new to your body.  You know how you react to stress and strain.

BDSM Safety

Safety in BDSM is always a top priority.  However, safety is not just doing one thing. It involves many different aspects. 

BDSM vs Abuse

BDSM can be so beneficial to your mental, emotional, and physical health. But BDSM in the wrong context can harbor abuse.

BDSM Beginnings

BDSM involves the practice of different kinky interests.  While Kink or being kinky means you enjoy exploring the sexual and non-sexual desires you have that may differ from societal norms.

SSC, RACK, and Other Safety Philosophies

Safety philosophies are ideas or mottos which provide guidelines that focus on keeping all parties safe while exploring Kink. 

What is BDSM

BDSM is an "umbrella term" for many different aspects of Kink.  BDSM is an acronym that stands for multiple terms: Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism.

Questions from the Curious...

Got a question about kink or BDSM? Use the Ask Me Anything section to ask anonymously—no judgment, just curiosity.

đź“Ś Q: “What kind of impact leaves bruises the easiest?“

đź’ˇ A: “Bruising depends on many factors, including pain tolerance, the tool used, and who is delivering the impact. Self-impact is usually easier with heavier, thuddier strikes, while partnered impact can use either thuddy or stingy sensations…” [Read More]

đź“Ś Q: “How do I find a mentor as a new Dominant?“

đź’ˇ A: “The best way to find a mentor is to join a like-minded community, either in person or online. Building connections over time will help you find someone with the right experience to guide you…” [Read More]

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