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Curiosities So Far...

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    Tonight my man asked me a question. He never asked before. He asked if he could nut on my face, and I did allow him to the whole time. He was telling me how pretty and beautiful I was. I guess my question is what made him want to do this? Was it a control thing? Or is this just a sexual thing all men want to do?
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    Do girls like puking from deepthroat
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      Some do...some don't. You'll need to talk to the specific girl to find out her preference.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    I have this kink that I’m not even sure it is a kink. I want to do things for a women while I am naked. It doesn’t seem to be exhibitionism because im not tying to have sex while they watch and it’s not really being a nudist because it’s more than being free and naked around other groups of people. I describe it as sensual or erotic nudity. My question is how do I find women to experience this that isn’t a dating or hook up site or just going to a nudist resort where most people are coupled up.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      Because your kink is super specific, you aren't going to be able to find a group of erotic nudists. You are going to have to find a group of kinksters, in person or online, get to know them, discuss your kinks with them, and then find the ones who are interested or open to the same kinks.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    How does one develop a kink? I have a kink for skunk spray (the idea of getting sprayed by a skunk, being teased for the odor, being washed in tomato juice by someone older, lots of humiliation and musk related stuff), but I've never been sprayed by a skunk or been in any situation like the one I've described. I'm not sure how it started, but it's been such an attractive fantasy for me for years.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      Brains are weird. Kinks don’t always come from real experiences. Sometimes your brain just latches onto an idea and goes, “Yeah, that’s hot.” Could be the humiliation, the musk, the whole getting taken care of thing. Who knows? If it’s been a fantasy for years, it’s just something that clicks for you, and that’s all that really matters. No need to question it too hard. Just enjoy what you enjoy!
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    What is a butt plug for?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      It's used to obstruct the anus.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    I am a boy and I really like to have my breathing under the control of a person even in chat, can there be safe sites where I can find such people anonymously?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      The safest place to find people with similar kinks is probably Fetlife. But you can't really be anonymous on there, because safety and vetting potential play partners is important. Anonymous kink play is very risky and not something I'd recommend.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    Hello, good time, I'm stuck in confusion, my son is in love with her, I took a woman so that I can suffocate her temporarily, and I also want her to do this to me, and it's worse than an old man who took her like a girl. I don't mind if he behaves like breathing torture! I am not gay and the testosterone test I did was 950, but what is the problem? Or is it not a problem? Can you guide me?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      Unfortunately I am not understanding what you are trying to relay so I don't think I can guide you on this.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    Can you provide an example of a BDSM contract for switches. I'm trying to figure out a good format for one, and the only ones I see are for Dom and sub contracts.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      When creating a BDSM contract for switches, the focus is on flexibility, balance, and making sure both partners feel supported. Unlike traditional Dominant/submissive contracts, a switch dynamic needs something that reflects the ability to alternate roles. A good contract should make it clear who will take on which role and when, while still allowing room for spontaneity and adjustment. It’s important to include responsibilities for both the Dominant and submissive roles, with an emphasis on trust, respect, and safety, no matter who’s in charge during a scene. Adding sections on pre-scene negotiations, limits, and aftercare helps keep consent and emotional well-being at the center of your dynamic. A well-thought-out contract doesn’t have to be formal or rigid. It should be collaborative, easy to update, and designed to make your dynamic clear, safe, and enjoyable for both partners. --- A crude example may look something like this:--- ### **Switch Dynamic Agreement**__ This agreement is between [Partner 1] and [Partner 2], signed on [Date]. The goal is to set clear expectations, respect boundaries, and keep our dynamic safe and enjoyable as we explore switching roles. This isn’t legally binding, it’s just a way to make sure we’re on the same page.__ We both agree to take turns as Dominant and submissive, deciding who’s in which role before any scene. To keep things safe and comfortable, here are our limits:__ - **Hard Limits (Off-Limits Activities):** [Partner 1’s Hard Limits] [Partner 2’s Hard Limits] - **Soft Limits (Activities Requiring Extra Discussion):** [Partner 1’s Soft Limits] [Partner 2’s Soft Limits]__ We’ll use safewords during scenes to make sure communication stays clear. The safeword to pause is [Insert Word], and the safeword to stop completely is [Insert Word]. Both of us commit to respecting these safewords, no exceptions. __ Whoever is in the Dominant role will focus on safety, clear communication, and respecting limits. Whoever is in the submissive role will communicate honestly, provide feedback, and use safewords if needed. Aftercare is just as important to both of us, so here’s what we each need after a scene:__ - [Partner 1’s Aftercare Needs] - [Partner 2’s Aftercare Needs]__ We’ll check in and review this agreement every [Timeframe, e.g., 3 months] to make sure it still works for both of us. Either of us can bring up changes or adjustments anytime. We also agree to keep the details of our dynamic private unless we both decide otherwise.__ By signing this, we’re committing to creating a fun, safe, and respectful dynamic where we both feel heard and supported.__ **Signatures:** [Partner 1 Name] _______________________ Date: __________ [Partner 2 Name] _______________________ Date: __________
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    My boyfriend and I have seemed to have stumbled into a non-contract BDSM relationship. This involves me acting as a Mommy in a lifestyle setting, and him as the "little boy". In the beginning of our relationship it was split where each of us would take on a parental role. How do I introduce the idea of having a proper BDSM dynamic, and changing some roles, when we have seemed to have created a dynamic naturally?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      Things like this happen quite often. And honestly, it's a pretty easy fix. You both need to sit down and communicate. You need to renegotiate the relationship, roles, and expectations that you currently have and realign them to the ways you both want. Discuss what you like and what you don't like. Discuss what you need and what you don't need. And also listen. Listen to your partner and listen to their wants and needs too. Working together can help both of you build and shape your relationship from what you have now, to one that fits your desires better. And also, be mindful that things can get out of alignment easily. So when you feel things start to get off, renegotiate to realign. Don't ignore the issues because that only lets them grow and can sometimes become unmanageable. Remember, it’s all about staying proactive. Talk to each other, address issues early, and make adjustments as needed. When you keep communication open and work together, you’ll build a relationship that keeps evolving to meet both your needs and desires.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    how do you keep online relationships versus irl relationships separate
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      To answer this I'd need an example of what's going on to figure out how to address the actual issue. Without more details, I would say communicate. Talk to all parties involved and set clear boundaries (and structure) regarding what is expected to happen when and where ..be it online or in person.