When creating a BDSM contract for switches, the focus is on flexibility, balance, and making sure both partners feel supported. Unlike traditional Dominant/submissive contracts, a switch dynamic needs something that reflects the ability to alternate roles. A good contract should make it clear who will take on which role and when, while still allowing room for spontaneity and adjustment. It’s important to include responsibilities for both the Dominant and submissive roles, with an emphasis on trust, respect, and safety, no matter who’s in charge during a scene. Adding sections on pre-scene negotiations, limits, and aftercare helps keep consent and emotional well-being at the center of your dynamic. A well-thought-out contract doesn’t have to be formal or rigid. It should be collaborative, easy to update, and designed to make your dynamic clear, safe, and enjoyable for both partners. --- A crude example may look something like this:--- ### **Switch Dynamic Agreement**__ This agreement is between [Partner 1] and [Partner 2], signed on [Date]. The goal is to set clear expectations, respect boundaries, and keep our dynamic safe and enjoyable as we explore switching roles. This isn’t legally binding, it’s just a way to make sure we’re on the same page.__ We both agree to take turns as Dominant and submissive, deciding who’s in which role before any scene. To keep things safe and comfortable, here are our limits:__ - **Hard Limits (Off-Limits Activities):** [Partner 1’s Hard Limits] [Partner 2’s Hard Limits] - **Soft Limits (Activities Requiring Extra Discussion):** [Partner 1’s Soft Limits] [Partner 2’s Soft Limits]__ We’ll use safewords during scenes to make sure communication stays clear. The safeword to pause is [Insert Word], and the safeword to stop completely is [Insert Word]. Both of us commit to respecting these safewords, no exceptions. __ Whoever is in the Dominant role will focus on safety, clear communication, and respecting limits. Whoever is in the submissive role will communicate honestly, provide feedback, and use safewords if needed. Aftercare is just as important to both of us, so here’s what we each need after a scene:__ - [Partner 1’s Aftercare Needs] - [Partner 2’s Aftercare Needs]__ We’ll check in and review this agreement every [Timeframe, e.g., 3 months] to make sure it still works for both of us. Either of us can bring up changes or adjustments anytime. We also agree to keep the details of our dynamic private unless we both decide otherwise.__ By signing this, we’re committing to creating a fun, safe, and respectful dynamic where we both feel heard and supported.__ **Signatures:** [Partner 1 Name] _______________________ Date: __________ [Partner 2 Name] _______________________ Date: __________

To answer this I'd need an example of what's going on to figure out how to address the actual issue. Without more details, I would say communicate. Talk to all parties involved and set clear boundaries (and structure) regarding what is expected to happen when and where ..be it online or in person.

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