Ice play is something a lot of people become curious about when exploring different types of sensation in BDSM. It may seem simple on the surface, but there are still things to be aware of before jumping in. Let’s talk about it.
What Is Ice Play?
Ice play is using objects that are cool or cold in physical temperature during play. Items that can be used for ice play include ice cubes, cold toys like metal, glass, crystal, or silicone items (think dildos, clamps, or attachments, etc), as well as cold or frozen food. Make sure you have towels available to address any melting ice or liquids.
What are some examples of ice play?
Some examples of ice play include using ice cubes on the skin or inserting them inside someone. You can also chill toys or implements before use and gently drag them across the body or use them for insertion. Dripping cold water on the body, giving chilled kisses, or engaging in icy oral sex are also ice play options. You can even create an ice dildo! (I highly recommend this tutorial from Franklin Veaux’s Journal)
One of the nice things about ice play is it can be given as a task or used in long distance play. Having a submissive hold something cold between their legs, lips, teeth, hands, feet, etc, for as long as they can is a fun way to incorporate submission and establish a strong submissive headspace.
What are some dangers involving ice play?
When using items that have been frozen like ice, it is very important to make sure you do not touch a dry, frozen object directly to the skin. If there is any kind of moisture on the skin, the dry, frozen object can stick and freeze to the area. (Think of A Christmas Story, i.e. tongue stuck to a frozen pole.) This can lead to ice burns or even frostbite. If you are playing with frozen insertables, always run water over the item first. This will add a moisture barrier and help prevent the ice from sticking. Leaving ice or a frozen item inserted or against the skin too long can also result in burns or high pain from the item.
Ice can break easily and produce rough, sharp edges. This is always something to be aware of. If you notice any sharp edges, run it under water to smooth the edges out.
Inserting items like popsicles, or other frozen food items run the risk of introducing bacteria that can create yeast infections or worse. Popsicles also have the risk of breaking off deep inside an orifice. Be safe and don’t do it. Only use these items externally.
Does ice play include dry ice?
Absolutely not. Dry ice is -109 F° (-79 C°). Just touching it for a few seconds can burn or damage the skin. Dry ice can even cause frostbite.
Is aftercare needed after ice play? If so, what kind?
Aftercare should always be an option after every play scene. In general with ice play, make sure you have a blanket to warm up with and some socks for their feet. Aside from that, their usual aftercare regimen would do. Make sure you talk to your partner about what kind of aftercare they want and need.
Adding an element of surprise when doing ice play can increase the sensation at the beginning simply because they weren’t ready for the stark temperature contrast. With a little practice and lots of creativity, cold items can elevate your play session to one that is hard to forget. For your next scene, remember to be adventurous, get chilly, and stay curious!
Continue Learning About BDSM Safety and Play
These guides explore safety, communication, and awareness to help keep play consensual and enjoyable.
- BDSM Safety – Important safety considerations when exploring different types of kink.
- Limits and Safewords – How boundaries and safewords help maintain control during play.
- Hurt vs Harm – Understanding the difference between expected sensation and actual injury.
- BDSM Scene Safety – How to prepare for and manage scenes safely from start to finish.
