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Curiosities So Far...

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on March 31, 2022 1:52 pm
    If a dominant wants to be pegged is that giving up control? Even if the sole purpose is to be satisfied and pleased by the submissive.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on March 31, 2022 8:14 pm
      The short answer is no.  Pegging is usually considered a submissive act because the person being pegged is on the receiving end of an action, instead of giving an action.  But let's talk about why this doesn't equal submission. Anal or pegging is generally looked at as giving someone access to your ass (a region that isn't always pleasurable for everyone).  This is considered submission if the Dominant wants to take it and if the submissive submits and obeys that command. If the Dominant enjoys anal and commands their submissive to peg them (or fuck them), the Dominant is still the one who has the power in this scenario.  The submissive, instead of taking the power role is actually "Service Topping".  Service topping is when a submissive steps into the position of giving an activity or action to the Dominant for the pleasure of the Dominant.  This can happen in multiple scenarios, like for example, pegging, bondage, or pain play.  Dom's have kinks and Dom's need them satisfied.  Just because you may enjoy an activity that puts you on the receiving end, doesn't mean you lose the element of power in your role or dynamic.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on March 31, 2022 1:50 pm
    What is your perfect dominant? In detail.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on March 31, 2022 8:17 pm
      I do not have an ideology of a perfect partner. I think perfection is unattainable. And if you are constantly looking for perfection, you can miss out on a wonderful person (or opportunity) standing right in front of you.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on March 18, 2022 2:15 am

    Hello there! 🙂

    Me and my girlfriend are looking for a way to explore some kinky things together. Do you know of any website that offers something like kinky tasks for couples for specific fantasies? Maybe video based trainings or sth like that, in which things are explained and then we are both given tasks to fulfil on the partner? Something similar: Can you recommend any book on BDSM for beginners?
    Thank you so much,
    Julian and Laura

    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on March 18, 2022 8:19 am

      Hello Julian and Laura

      -As far as websites that offer tasks or training then tasks, unfortunately I’m not aware of any. However, there are some good YouTube BDSM Influencers in regards to education. (Evie Lupine, Watts The Safeword, Kat Blaque, Morgan Thorne BDSM, etc)

      -In regards to task-based avenues, I know there are some Kink servers on Discord that offer tasks for their BDSM community.

      -BDSM books, oh my gosh there are so many good ones.

      Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns- by Philip Miller

      The New Topping Book
      Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

      The New Bottoming Book
      Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

      BDSM Basics for Beginners by Michelle Fegatofi

      SM101 by Jay Wiseman

      These are just a few that I recommend.

      It’s exciting to be able to explore with a partner. Your education and growth now, will set you on a path for exploration for years to come and it truly is a really exciting adventure!

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on March 12, 2022 7:00 pm
    I've never been tied up,love to try
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on January 27, 2022 11:13 am
    What's happening with this blog in 2022
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on January 27, 2022 12:48 pm
      Hopefully more posts!
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on December 8, 2021 10:42 am
    As a bi curious submissive/masochist female i would love to learn kinks from an experienced dominant/sadist female. For starters should I start out with soft limits and if something might be too intense change it to a hard limit moving forward?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on March 31, 2022 8:21 pm
      Not sure how I missed this, apologies. For starters I would recommend filling out a checklist. Answer it honestly, not how you think others would expect you to fill it out. Also, if something is listed on a checklist and you aren't sure what it is or what it means, look it up. Don't just answer because you think you know what it is. Checklists are a great starting point for anyone who is new to the scene. You can always change your likes, wants, needs, and limits. Most people that I know in the lifestyle have changed, adapted, and evolved their kinks and limits over time. This is completely normal and expected. But don't change something unless you want to and or are ready to.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on February 4, 2021 8:19 am
    I am very new to the whole of BDSM/kink and am also disabled both physically and mentally but I want to learn how to be a pet to a master or mistress but don't know what to do or where to start?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on March 31, 2022 9:00 pm

      Great question. First thing you need to do before you try to find a Dominant, is learn what kind of pet you are. There’s all different kinds. Cats, dogs, fox, rabbits, ponys, even human pets who don’t relate to an animal type. Then you need to educate yourself on what you are looking for, what you need, compared to what you want. Also any expectations you might have. Once you have a good understanding of all that, you need to learn and explore what type of pet kinks you might have. Do you only have pet kinks, do you also have other kinks. This is the best way to build a good foundation not only for yourself but for your potential owner. After you understand and have a good grasp on that, only then should you start looking for an Owner. Knowing what you want and need, being educated enough on the topic, and being able to communicate these things will help you to select an Owner who fits your needs. Trust me, it will make the whole experience much more fufilling

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 19, 2020 9:19 am
    What is your favourite kink? And what is the worst punishment and task for you??
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on September 19, 2020 9:30 am
      Hmm, I generally don't have favorites, but because it's so necessary for me (not because I just like it more) I'd say orgasm control is my top kink. I need to have that direction. As for punishment, I don't know if there is a "worst" one. I don't like any punishment, or anything where I have disappointed my Dominant. I think my most common one, probably because it works really well for me, is writing lines. Having to see and write what I did wrong over and over is tough, and something I definitely do not like. Worst task? I have no idea. I've had to do some tasks that push me out of my comfort zone before, for instance, wearing an anal plug to the store (I struggle with public things), but I also had my safewords to use if I got too overwhelmed or anxious.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on July 11, 2020 7:51 pm
    Why are you so sexy?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on July 11, 2020 7:57 pm
      😋🙃