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  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 28, 2025 2:29 pm
    I love saliva i love being gagged and i can drool into a cup but what should i do with that saliva i want to do but everything i tried it wasint that exinting can you give me 5 ,differend ideas what should i do with my saliva
    • Curious Kinkster asked:
      on September 25, 2025 4:59 pm
      I am talking to this man in Germany who wants a sex slave. I actually have a kink for this, I have confirmed he is not catfishing me. He wants to relocate me to Germany and even wants me to sign a contract. That he already pointed out is not legally binding. He is into TPE and will answer any question I ask but when he brought up the contract he was talking about relocating me fairly soon and even taking care of everything like finding me part time work, and getting my travel and everything else scheduled in advance so I wouldn’t have much to worry about. Wants my passport to get me visa status but also asked for my American social? Most of it checks with the TPE and when I said I was born in Kentucky he didn’t pry for the location in that area. So I don’t believe he is trying to scam me? I’m just worried that this could be a sex trafficking situation. But I don’t believe he would? At least with not how he sounds and looks.
      • kinkycuriosity replied:
        on September 25, 2025 5:00 pm
        Follow your gut...if it feels off or too good to be true, it probably is.
    • Curious Kinkster asked:
      on September 19, 2025 10:05 am
      I want to give my male sub some tasks but we are far away but I can't get so many ideas because I'm new to this and I never played bdsm before can you help me to assign tasks for my sub
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on September 6, 2025 9:04 pm
        Ive never employed a commercial before, but am wildly curious about it. Pegging seems to be the thing I am mist drawn to. What advice would you give me before I pursue this?
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on September 16, 2025 10:02 am
          My biggest advice is to take it slow and keep the communication open. Start with fingers or smaller toys so your body can adjust, use plenty of lube, and focus on relaxing instead of pushing too fast. Keep checking in with your partner, and don’t forget aftercare because it helps the whole experience feel safe, connected, and enjoyable.
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on August 28, 2025 11:06 pm
        Is there a name for a kink where you like to flirt sexually with people, usually they are in a relationship, I just like to make them extremely turned on, but only so they go and have sex with their partner? I would also love it if they told me what they did with their partner afterwards. I guess kind of like a fluffer? Or a backwards Cuck but the partner doesn't know I exist. There's no physical cheating and I don't actually want to sleep with them either, they know I'm off limits. I'm also a female.
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on August 28, 2025 11:19 pm
          I wouldn’t really call it cuck or cuckquean since you’re not in their relationship and you’re not aiming for humiliation. It’s also not exactly being a fluffer because you’re not preparing someone for your own scene. What it really sounds like is the art of being a tease. You enjoy creating the spark, getting them turned on, and then having them take that energy to their partner. And since you like knowing what happened afterward, there’s a little bit of voyeurism by proxy in there too, because hearing what you instigated is exciting.
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on August 15, 2025 7:55 pm
        I just discovered I have a kink for sharpie markings on the body separating parts like you would see on diagrams for meat cows/pork, like a dotted line and a labeled area (chuck, ribs, short plate, etc), is there a name for that?
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on August 18, 2025 3:15 pm
          In general it's called body writing...as far as those specific markings I'm not sure but it definitely sounds kinky and fun!
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on August 4, 2025 3:04 pm
        I'm a masochistic submissive man. I want a relationship where outside the bedroom my woman and I are equals and treat each other with love and respect.But, in the bedroom, I want a woman who 100% controls me especially my orgasms and that I can not do any type of sexual activities without her telling me to do it or not do it. I want her to order me to pleasure her anytime she wants it. I also want her to rule with a heavy hand and to punish me when she feels like I need punishment and that 95% of the penalties to consist of me feeling physical pain on either my butt by receiving welts or on my genitals or possibly both.Is it possible to find a woman who would agree to kind outside of the bedroom but a tyrant in the bedroom?
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on August 18, 2025 3:14 pm
          It's absolutely possible, you just need to find someone who matches your needs. Be patient and settle. Your person is out there.
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on August 4, 2025 2:25 pm
        I had a really weird dream last night. I dreamt that there was a convention in a large city that was for Mistresses and Dominatrixes. There were about 50 Mistresses and Dominatrixes there and no men. In the dream I walked in uninvited I had a tattoo just above my groin that readI'm a sex toy to be used, abused and defiled. Edge me into hysterical insanity and Deny me any release as you Laugh and chastise me when I beg for mercy.And a tattoo on my butt that read whip me cover me in welts. When I walked into the convention I was completely naked, blindfolded, gagged, and my hands were handcuffed behind my back with a sign around my neck saying do as you please. I won't be missed by anyone.My question is if I were to do something like that in real life, how do you think the Mistresses and Dominatrixes would react and what might they do.
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on August 18, 2025 3:13 pm
          I can't speak for other Dominants. That would be a question for them.
      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on July 21, 2025 1:54 pm
        I have my first session with a dominatrix tomorrow. I started wondering what the proper way to enter the space is, and then how to greet her? There is probably a few subtleties that I haven't thought of
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on July 21, 2025 1:57 pm

          Honestly it really depends on the level of protocol that the session will be…is it low, medium, or high protocol… The higher the protocol the more formal and strict things are. I'd ask the Dominatrix what is expected, protocol wise and if there’s any specific way you need to greet or speak. Because it’s all based on her preference, after all.

      • Curious Kinkster asked:
        on July 20, 2025 10:14 am
        I feel a strong need to explore bedroom only submissiveness to a female dominant, but I feel like I need the context of not really having an emotional relationship with that person. Id like it to be with someone that I can explore this aspect in the absence of a greater relationship. I’m married, but my wife both does not want to explore this because she is not a dominant. We’ve had discussions of my exploring this outside of our marriage. I’d rather explore this as part of a community rather than through a paid provider online. What do you recommend to be the first steps that I can take to finding like-minded people?
        • kinkycuriosity replied:
          on July 20, 2025 10:49 am
          I would recommend becoming active in your local or nearest local seen. Once you become an active vetted member, then being able to attend play parties is a great way to find play partners who are interested in similar play. FetLife is usually a good place to begin finding and connecting with your local Kinksters.

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