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  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on August 15, 2025 7:55 pm
    I just discovered I have a kink for sharpie markings on the body separating parts like you would see on diagrams for meat cows/pork, like a dotted line and a labeled area (chuck, ribs, short plate, etc), is there a name for that?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on August 18, 2025 3:15 pm
      In general it's called body writing...as far as those specific markings I'm not sure but it definitely sounds kinky and fun!
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on August 4, 2025 3:04 pm
    I'm a masochistic submissive man. I want a relationship where outside the bedroom my woman and I are equals and treat each other with love and respect. But, in the bedroom, I want a woman who 100% controls me especially my orgasms and that I can not do any type of sexual activities without her telling me to do it or not do it. I want her to order me to pleasure her anytime she wants it. I also want her to rule with a heavy hand and to punish me when she feels like I need punishment and that 95% of the penalties to consist of me feeling physical pain on either my butt by receiving welts or on my genitals or possibly both. Is it possible to find a woman who would agree to kind outside of the bedroom but a tyrant in the bedroom?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on August 18, 2025 3:14 pm
      It's absolutely possible, you just need to find someone who matches your needs. Be patient and settle. Your person is out there.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on August 4, 2025 2:25 pm
    I had a really weird dream last night. I dreamt that there was a convention in a large city that was for Mistresses and Dominatrixes. There were about 50 Mistresses and Dominatrixes there and no men. In the dream I walked in uninvited I had a tattoo just above my groin that read I'm a sex toy to be used, abused and defiled. Edge me into hysterical insanity and Deny me any release as you Laugh and chastise me when I beg for mercy. And a tattoo on my butt that read whip me cover me in welts. When I walked into the convention I was completely naked, blindfolded, gagged, and my hands were handcuffed behind my back with a sign around my neck saying do as you please. I won't be missed by anyone. My question is if I were to do something like that in real life, how do you think the Mistresses and Dominatrixes would react and what might they do.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on August 18, 2025 3:13 pm
      I can't speak for other Dominants. That would be a question for them.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on July 21, 2025 1:54 pm
    I have my first session with a dominatrix tomorrow. I started wondering what the proper way to enter the space is, and then how to greet her? There is probably a few subtleties that I haven't thought of
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on July 21, 2025 1:57 pm

      Honestly it really depends on the level of protocol that the session will be…is it low, medium, or high protocol… The higher the protocol the more formal and strict things are. I'd ask the Dominatrix what is expected, protocol wise and if there’s any specific way you need to greet or speak. Because it’s all based on her preference, after all.

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on July 20, 2025 10:14 am
    I feel a strong need to explore bedroom only submissiveness to a female dominant, but I feel like I need the context of not really having an emotional relationship with that person. Id like it to be with someone that I can explore this aspect in the absence of a greater relationship. I’m married, but my wife both does not want to explore this because she is not a dominant. We’ve had discussions of my exploring this outside of our marriage. I’d rather explore this as part of a community rather than through a paid provider online. What do you recommend to be the first steps that I can take to finding like-minded people?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on July 20, 2025 10:49 am
      I would recommend becoming active in your local or nearest local seen. Once you become an active vetted member, then being able to attend play parties is a great way to find play partners who are interested in similar play. FetLife is usually a good place to begin finding and connecting with your local Kinksters.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on June 25, 2025 5:02 am
    I have a pee and belly button fetish but i’m not sure what site or community would be best to talk about this. I’m not looking for hookups, I just want to talk with like-minded kinksters.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on June 25, 2025 5:04 am
      The best place to look is probably FetLife or an online community/forum like Discord or Reddit.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on June 17, 2025 4:28 pm
    My dominant isn't hurting me like beating me etc because he says I'm to cute and its hard to believe I would want that
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on June 25, 2025 3:27 am
      In kink, there a different between hurt and harm...harm and abuse have no place in kink. If you feel like that is occuring, I encourage you to remove yourself from that situation. As far as hurt goes, impact play and pain are very popular activities. If you're confused on where you are with liking it or not, you need to have that conversation with your Dominant.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on June 11, 2025 2:42 pm
    What is a list of (beginner)submissive duties/responsibilities to their mate
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on June 25, 2025 3:29 am
      There isn't really a beginner's duty list. It all revolves around your dynamics needs, responsibilities and preferences. And those things are sorted out over time through communication
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on May 12, 2025 4:46 pm
    will a bondage gear store let you try on the restraints before buying. will they put you in bondage to see how it feels?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on July 21, 2025 7:28 am
      They are not going to put you in full bondage, but they might let you see how a wrist or hand cuff feels. That just depends on the seller.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on May 10, 2025 3:18 pm
    So is there REALLY such a thing of “having an orgasm just by penetration”? Howwww?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on July 21, 2025 7:26 am
      Yes, but everyone is different. The majority of females do not have an orgasm by penetration alone.
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