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  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on December 8, 2025 8:50 pm
    I recently asked my wife (of 11 years) to pee on me. She agreed to try… We eagerly went to the bathroom together and made out for several minutes. I laid on the floor and she squatted over me… And she got pee shy. How can I help her overcome her shy bladder so we can get kinky?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on December 11, 2025 7:06 am

      Hello,

      Shy bladder is a lot more common than most people think, especially when you’re trying something brand new that asks the body to relax on command. Even if she’s excited and willing, the mix of pressure, nerves, and being watched can make her body freeze up. It doesn’t mean she isn’t into it, it just means her system needs a little time to adjust.

      One of the easiest ways to help is to take the pressure off the moment. A warm shower with the water running is perfect for that. The sound and the heat help the body relax, and she won’t feel as “on display.” You can keep things light, playful, and low-stakes while her body gets used to the idea. With patience and no expectations to “perform,” most people find their comfort and confidence grow naturally.

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on November 28, 2025 2:21 pm
    Two questions here: Male, straight and married. I have kinks that revolve around being more submissive in the bedroom. Things like pegging, chastity, bondage and feminization/sissy play. I firmly believe these kinks existed with before I knew they had names or specific categories. I grew up wanting to wear my sisters thongs because that type of clothing was fun and revealing. Before I got married I had an open discussion with my wife about what kinks I had. She’s not really that open to exploring them with me because she thinks it means I’m gay or will lead to me being gay. I’ve reinforced to her multiple times that I have no interest in men and would never want anyone else in our sexual lives besides ourselves. I’ve never had an interest in men. Is there a way I can help get her over the stigma that men are allowed to be submissive sometimes? 2: My wife has no kinks at all. I’ve tried to talk to her about fantasies and kinks, but nothing interests her. If she had kinks, I’d support and be open to anything she wanted to explore outside of bringing others into our bedroom. I’d do anything for her to feel safe and explore those things together, but I don’t get the same vibe from her. She’s not willing to support or explore my kinks with me. Is it wrong to believe that she should support me like I would support her?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on November 28, 2025 2:56 pm

      It is absolutely understandable why you want your wife to be supportive, because feeling accepted by your partner matters. It is not wrong to want that support, but support does not always mean participation, especially when someone has little to no interest in kink. A lot of her hesitation likely comes from stigma and fear rather than anything about you. Because kink is so mental, asking her to explore your submissive side before she is ready can make her uncomfortable on a deep level, and it may shut down her desire completely.

      You are not wrong for wanting this, and she is not wrong for stepping back from something that does not fit who she is. Kinks cannot be pushed on someone, even gently. What the two of you need most right now is open conversation without pressure. This gives her room to ask questions, get more comfortable with the idea of what it would involve, and share her feelings without worrying that she is responsible for a kink that does not feel natural to her. With time and honest communication, she may become more open to trying it, but that choice has to be hers.

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on November 23, 2025 3:35 pm
    hello! Mainly I want help with basic dom techniques-how to lead, communicate clearly, and start practicing safely as a beginner.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on November 24, 2025 10:11 am

      I would recommend checking out a few different articles that I have posted. Specifically the Safety, Consent, & Communication category as well as the Foundations & Framework. There are articles on safety, communication, and structure that might point you in the right direction.

  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on November 15, 2025 8:14 pm
    I haven't found any information for this anywhere since I'm sure it is taboo... I have a huge cnc kink and my partner is also into it. I have a fantasy of being drugged/roofied and dealt with however my partner would like. We have used alcohol or cannaboids (Delta 9), where they have (consensually ALWAYS) slipped some into something I was eating or drinking in order to fulfill my want for it. I find that alcohol and delta 9 have not given me the type of helpless experience I am looking for, but I also really do not want to have anything illegal! I was hoping you would know what options there might be to replicate the experience of being drugged or roofied, and if none, what would you suggest alongside what we are already doing?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on November 15, 2025 8:32 pm
      Hey, this is a dangerous topic that I have to be careful with. It’s one of the few kinks I can’t really advise on for legal and safety reasons. When it comes to kink, there isn’t a safe or legal way to recreate an actual drugged or roofied state, even with consent. Any scenario that impairs your awareness crosses a line that I can’t touch. The only ways to explore this ethically are through fantasy, roleplay, and a controlled headspace, not through substances. Sensory restriction, disorientation, or even a planned pretend setup can give you a feeling similar to what you’re looking for without putting you or your partner at risk. This is the safest direction I can point you in.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on October 12, 2025 3:51 am
    I am wondering what changes will be made to my body im a man and some bbc trans girls want to make me a complete sissy so what does that include.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on October 12, 2025 8:08 am
      Honestly, it really just depends on what you're comfortable with. Usually sissification focuses on appearance and humiliation, like clothes, makeup, hairstyles, and language meant to embarrass or reinforce a submissive role. It can include physical changes, but that's pretty rare and usually a personal choice, not something that happens through play itself.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 28, 2025 2:29 pm
    I love saliva i love being gagged and i can drool into a cup but what should i do with that saliva i want to do but everything i tried it wasint that exinting can you give me 5 ,differend ideas what should i do with my saliva
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 25, 2025 4:59 pm
    I am talking to this man in Germany who wants a sex slave. I actually have a kink for this, I have confirmed he is not catfishing me. He wants to relocate me to Germany and even wants me to sign a contract. That he already pointed out is not legally binding. He is into TPE and will answer any question I ask but when he brought up the contract he was talking about relocating me fairly soon and even taking care of everything like finding me part time work, and getting my travel and everything else scheduled in advance so I wouldn’t have much to worry about. Wants my passport to get me visa status but also asked for my American social? Most of it checks with the TPE and when I said I was born in Kentucky he didn’t pry for the location in that area. So I don’t believe he is trying to scam me? I’m just worried that this could be a sex trafficking situation. But I don’t believe he would? At least with not how he sounds and looks.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on September 25, 2025 5:00 pm
      Follow your gut...if it feels off or too good to be true, it probably is.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 19, 2025 10:05 am
    I want to give my male sub some tasks but we are far away but I can't get so many ideas because I'm new to this and I never played bdsm before can you help me to assign tasks for my sub
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on September 6, 2025 9:04 pm
    Ive never employed a commercial before, but am wildly curious about it. Pegging seems to be the thing I am mist drawn to. What advice would you give me before I pursue this?
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on September 16, 2025 10:02 am
      My biggest advice is to take it slow and keep the communication open. Start with fingers or smaller toys so your body can adjust, use plenty of lube, and focus on relaxing instead of pushing too fast. Keep checking in with your partner, and don’t forget aftercare because it helps the whole experience feel safe, connected, and enjoyable.
  • Curious Kinkster asked:
    on August 28, 2025 11:06 pm
    Is there a name for a kink where you like to flirt sexually with people, usually they are in a relationship, I just like to make them extremely turned on, but only so they go and have sex with their partner? I would also love it if they told me what they did with their partner afterwards. I guess kind of like a fluffer? Or a backwards Cuck but the partner doesn't know I exist. There's no physical cheating and I don't actually want to sleep with them either, they know I'm off limits. I'm also a female.
    • kinkycuriosity replied:
      on August 28, 2025 11:19 pm
      I wouldn’t really call it cuck or cuckquean since you’re not in their relationship and you’re not aiming for humiliation. It’s also not exactly being a fluffer because you’re not preparing someone for your own scene. What it really sounds like is the art of being a tease. You enjoy creating the spark, getting them turned on, and then having them take that energy to their partner. And since you like knowing what happened afterward, there’s a little bit of voyeurism by proxy in there too, because hearing what you instigated is exciting.
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