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The Reaction Test

Your plans fall apart at the last minute. What's the first thing you do?

I get overwhelmed and want to walk away from the whole thing.

Let out a very dramatic sigh.

I ask everyone else what they want to do.

I go quiet for a while.

I immediately start making a new plan.

None

You're overwhelmed and have too much on your plate. What are you most likely to do?

Vent about it.

Pretend it doesn't exist for a little while.

Withdraw from everyone.

Start making lists.

Make sure everyone else is okay.

None

You're running late and everything keeps going wrong. What are you most likely to do?

Focus on what I can still accomplish.

Grumble the entire time.

Start wishing I had never left the house.

Get to the point where I'm unable to do anything for a few minutes.

Tell myself it's not worth getting upset over.

None

Someone misunderstands what you meant. What's the first thing you do?

Apologize even if I wasn't wrong.

Correct them immediately.

Decide this conversation isn't worth it.

Explain it a different way.

Go completely blank.

None

An unexpected problem pops up. What do you do first?

I start looking for solutions.

I wish it would disappear.

I need a minute before I can think clearly.

I try to keep everyone calm.

I scream out in frustration.

None

Someone starts an argument with you. What's your first instinct?

Try to de-escalate the situation.

Argue back.

Find a way out of the conversation.

Figure out what they're actually upset about.

Go quiet.

None

Someone asks you a question you'd really rather not answer. What do you do?

My brain immediately forgets how words work.

Try to get out of answering.

Answer before I probably should.

Carefully choose my response.

Ask why they want to know.

None

Someone blames you for something that wasn't your fault. What do you do?

I immediately get defensive.

I stare at them in shock.

I start breaking down the situation and explaining why it wasn't my fault.

I start discussing how the situation can be addressed.

I tell them no and walk away.

None

Someone says something that hurts your feelings. What happens next?

I immediately say something back.

I find a reason to leave.

I try to change the subject.

I start asking questions.

I get really quiet.

None

You've had a terrible day and one more thing goes wrong. What happens next?

I want to be left alone.

I start figuring out what needs to happen next.

I immediately start complaining about it.

I just sit there for a minute.

I tell myself it's not worth fighting over.

None

Someone sends you a text that says, "We need to talk." What's your immediate reaction?

I start asking questions.

I suddenly find something else to do.

I stare at the message for way too long.

I try to keep the conversation calm.

I text back immediately.

None

Time's up

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