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The Reaction Test

Someone misunderstands what you meant. What's the first thing you do?

Apologize even if I wasn't wrong.

Explain it a different way.

Go completely blank.

Decide this conversation isn't worth it.

Correct them immediately.

None

Someone blames you for something that wasn't your fault. What do you do?

I stare at them in shock.

I start breaking down the situation and explaining why it wasn't my fault.

I tell them no and walk away.

I start discussing how the situation can be addressed.

I immediately get defensive.

None

Someone starts an argument with you. What's your first instinct?

Figure out what they're actually upset about.

Argue back.

Go quiet.

Find a way out of the conversation.

Try to de-escalate the situation.

None

An unexpected problem pops up. What do you do first?

I need a minute before I can think clearly.

I start looking for solutions.

I try to keep everyone calm.

I scream out in frustration.

I wish it would disappear.

None

Someone asks you a question you'd really rather not answer. What do you do?

Ask why they want to know.

Try to get out of answering.

Carefully choose my response.

Answer before I probably should.

My brain immediately forgets how words work.

None

You've had a terrible day and one more thing goes wrong. What happens next?

I immediately start complaining about it.

I start figuring out what needs to happen next.

I just sit there for a minute.

I want to be left alone.

I tell myself it's not worth fighting over.

None

Someone says something that hurts your feelings. What happens next?

I try to change the subject.

I immediately say something back.

I start asking questions.

I find a reason to leave.

I get really quiet.

None

You're overwhelmed and have too much on your plate. What are you most likely to do?

Vent about it.

Pretend it doesn't exist for a little while.

Make sure everyone else is okay.

Withdraw from everyone.

Start making lists.

None

Your plans fall apart at the last minute. What's the first thing you do?

I get overwhelmed and want to walk away from the whole thing.

I ask everyone else what they want to do.

I go quiet for a while.

Let out a very dramatic sigh.

I immediately start making a new plan.

None

Someone sends you a text that says, "We need to talk." What's your immediate reaction?

I try to keep the conversation calm.

I text back immediately.

I stare at the message for way too long.

I suddenly find something else to do.

I start asking questions.

None

You're running late and everything keeps going wrong. What are you most likely to do?

Focus on what I can still accomplish.

Get to the point where I'm unable to do anything for a few minutes.

Tell myself it's not worth getting upset over.

Grumble the entire time.

Start wishing I had never left the house.

None

Time's up

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