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The Reaction Test

Someone misunderstands what you meant. What's the first thing you do?

Correct them immediately.

Explain it a different way.

Apologize even if I wasn't wrong.

Decide this conversation isn't worth it.

Go completely blank.

None

Your plans fall apart at the last minute. What's the first thing you do?

I ask everyone else what they want to do.

I get overwhelmed and want to walk away from the whole thing.

I immediately start making a new plan.

Let out a very dramatic sigh.

I go quiet for a while.

None

Someone starts an argument with you. What's your first instinct?

Argue back.

Figure out what they're actually upset about.

Go quiet.

Find a way out of the conversation.

Try to de-escalate the situation.

None

You're running late and everything keeps going wrong. What are you most likely to do?

Focus on what I can still accomplish.

Grumble the entire time.

Tell myself it's not worth getting upset over.

Start wishing I had never left the house.

Get to the point where I'm unable to do anything for a few minutes.

None

You've had a terrible day and one more thing goes wrong. What happens next?

I just sit there for a minute.

I tell myself it's not worth fighting over.

I want to be left alone.

I immediately start complaining about it.

I start figuring out what needs to happen next.

None

An unexpected problem pops up. What do you do first?

I try to keep everyone calm.

I scream out in frustration.

I wish it would disappear.

I start looking for solutions.

I need a minute before I can think clearly.

None

Someone says something that hurts your feelings. What happens next?

I find a reason to leave.

I start asking questions.

I try to change the subject.

I immediately say something back.

I get really quiet.

None

Someone asks you a question you'd really rather not answer. What do you do?

Carefully choose my response.

Answer before I probably should.

Try to get out of answering.

My brain immediately forgets how words work.

Ask why they want to know.

None

Someone blames you for something that wasn't your fault. What do you do?

I start breaking down the situation and explaining why it wasn't my fault.

I immediately get defensive.

I tell them no and walk away.

I stare at them in shock.

I start discussing how the situation can be addressed.

None

You're overwhelmed and have too much on your plate. What are you most likely to do?

Withdraw from everyone.

Start making lists.

Pretend it doesn't exist for a little while.

Vent about it.

Make sure everyone else is okay.

None

Someone sends you a text that says, "We need to talk." What's your immediate reaction?

I text back immediately.

I stare at the message for way too long.

I try to keep the conversation calm.

I start asking questions.

I suddenly find something else to do.

None

Time's up

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