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The Reaction Test

You've had a terrible day and one more thing goes wrong. What happens next?

I just sit there for a minute.

I tell myself it's not worth fighting over.

I want to be left alone.

I start figuring out what needs to happen next.

I immediately start complaining about it.

None

Someone asks you a question you'd really rather not answer. What do you do?

Carefully choose my response.

Ask why they want to know.

Try to get out of answering.

My brain immediately forgets how words work.

Answer before I probably should.

None

Someone says something that hurts your feelings. What happens next?

I try to change the subject.

I find a reason to leave.

I start asking questions.

I get really quiet.

I immediately say something back.

None

An unexpected problem pops up. What do you do first?

I wish it would disappear.

I need a minute before I can think clearly.

I start looking for solutions.

I try to keep everyone calm.

I scream out in frustration.

None

Someone sends you a text that says, "We need to talk." What's your immediate reaction?

I text back immediately.

I start asking questions.

I stare at the message for way too long.

I try to keep the conversation calm.

I suddenly find something else to do.

None

Someone starts an argument with you. What's your first instinct?

Figure out what they're actually upset about.

Find a way out of the conversation.

Argue back.

Try to de-escalate the situation.

Go quiet.

None

You're overwhelmed and have too much on your plate. What are you most likely to do?

Start making lists.

Make sure everyone else is okay.

Vent about it.

Pretend it doesn't exist for a little while.

Withdraw from everyone.

None

Someone misunderstands what you meant. What's the first thing you do?

Decide this conversation isn't worth it.

Correct them immediately.

Go completely blank.

Apologize even if I wasn't wrong.

Explain it a different way.

None

You're running late and everything keeps going wrong. What are you most likely to do?

Get to the point where I'm unable to do anything for a few minutes.

Grumble the entire time.

Start wishing I had never left the house.

Focus on what I can still accomplish.

Tell myself it's not worth getting upset over.

None

Someone blames you for something that wasn't your fault. What do you do?

I tell them no and walk away.

I start discussing how the situation can be addressed.

I immediately get defensive.

I start breaking down the situation and explaining why it wasn't my fault.

I stare at them in shock.

None

Your plans fall apart at the last minute. What's the first thing you do?

I get overwhelmed and want to walk away from the whole thing.

I ask everyone else what they want to do.

I immediately start making a new plan.

Let out a very dramatic sigh.

I go quiet for a while.

None

Time's up

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